Massage is more than just plopping her down on a bed or carpet and going to town on her with your internet-learned massage skills. You could do that but the odds are she’ll never want a massage from you again (and will share with all her friends every intimate detail of the well-intentioned but thoroughly un-erotic experience she went through).
One of the most important elements of the massage experience is the use of oils. That’s right, spas and professional masseuses do not use oils simply because everyone else seems to be doing it. These oils greatly enhance the massage experience and make it easier for you both to achieve what you want through the massage.
Why Use Massage Oils?
To understand why we use massage oils, first take a look at why people want a massage in the first place. Some of the most common reasons to get a massage are:
- as foreplay;
- relieve anxiety;
- combat restlessness;
- deat exhaustion;
- enhance mood.
Massage oils can help you achieve each one of those specific goals. This is because different oils are infused with different essences, each of which has been shown to affect the senses in a unique way.
When the right essence or mix of essences is introduced into the air you breathe and it is allowed to soak into your flesh, the effect can be magical. The senses and the body absorb the concentrated ingredients and react accordingly.
Choosing the Right Massage Oil
A number of essential oils are available that combine various ingredients together for an all-in-one solution. These options are more affordable but they may not be able to deliver the same level of effectiveness because the power of each ingredient is essentially diluted by the presence of so many others.
It is better to choose oils that contain the individual ingredient, or the mix of ingredients, specific to your needs. Here is a guide to which ingredients you should look out for in your massage oil, depending on what you want to achieve through the massage.
Clary sage, damiana, ginger, jasmine, patchouli, rose, sandalwood, vanilla, ylang ylang.
Lavender, chamomile, peppermint, clary sage, ylang ylang, patchouli, geranium, lemon, rose oil, sandalwood, valerian root
Rose, frankincense, lavender, bergamot, marjoram, vetiver, chamomile, lemon, geranium, cinnamon, rosewood, ylang ylang
Bergamot, roman chamomile, mandarin, marjoram, valerian, vetiver
Angelica, basil, geranium, black pepper, orange, grapefruit, bergamot, pine, lemon, ginger, eucalyptus, peppermint, rosemary, lavender
Lemon, lavender, jasmine, rosemary, cinnamon, bergamot, sandalwood, clary sage
The list above touches on the main reasons for wanting a massage, and the list of essential oils most conducive to use for each particular reason. You might have noticed that several of the oils appear in several lists. This is because they are very versatile and offer a range of benefits.
Here now is a list of some of the most beneficial essential oils that are used in massage and aromatherapy. They have been chosen not just for their versatility but because each has also been identified as having a positive effect on sexual arousal and performance.
Cinnamon massage oil
Most of us are familiar with cinnamon as a spice but it is also known for its ability to boost blood circulation when ingested orally or when applied to the skin. Whereas the benefits of enhanced blood circulation for men may seem obvious, it also has the effect of an aphrodisiac in women because increased blood flow enhances skin sensitivity which leads to heightened responsiveness and more pleasure.
Jasmine massage oil
Jasmine is another essence known for its ability to enhance blood circulation. It is also recognized for its ability to imbue a sense of strength, warmth and vitality, all of which are very important to giving you confidence in a sexual encounter.
Lavender massage oil
Lavender is, without a doubt, one of the most popular essential oils and a very common fragrance in everything from aromatherapy candles to perfumes to air fresheners. The oil is used as an erotic supplement because lavender is a very good mind relaxant, a characteristic that allows you to become aroused and be more responsive to your partner’s needs.
Rose massage oil
The rose has always been associated with amorous love and rose oil is known as the essential oil of love. Rose oil is reputed to have the highest vibration frequency of all oils, which is said to be the reason for its ability to create bonds, both emotional and spiritual, between people. It is also said to be good for heart health and, therefore, circulation.
Sandalwood massage oil
Sandalwood has been used in India for millennia as an accompaniment to prayer and meditation; it helps the mind stay in the moment and perceive even the smallest stimulus around the body. As a massage oil, it is incredibly helpful as a tool to awaken every pore and cell in the body to touch and stimulation.
Ylang Ylang massage oil
Ylang ylang has come to be known as an essential oil that very closely bonds with your inner self and allows you to relax completely. You will be better able to enjoy every positive emotion and use that positivity to enhance your romantic and amorous urges.
Some Massage Oil Tips
Using massage oil can be tricky if you are new to using it. The last thing you want is to create a huge mess which distracts you from the most important thing – you partner – and the wonderful massage you have planned.
Here are some basic rules to follow to get the best results:
- Massage on a firm surface for stability. A firm mattress may suffice but an inflatable mattress on the ground may be the answer if you don’t want to worry about getting oil on your bed.
- Oil never goes straight to the body – it must be put on your hands first. Remember to rub your hands together to warm the oil up before applying it.
- Go easy on the oil. Be conservative – you can always add more if there is too little; if there is too much, you will end up distracted by the mess.