We have all heard of urban legends of sex toys in a parcel post or in luggage that humiliates the owner. Although it is generally not advisable to let people know that you are using sex toys, their stigmatization has gradually dissipated over the past decade.
Should you use them?
The use of sex toys no longer places you in the realm of sexual deviants. In fact, they are even recommended by some sex therapists and couples therapists as tools to develop and maintain intimacy. However, the number of possible users is much larger:
- Singles who crave sexual liberation but find it difficult to find a suitable partner.
Long-term couples who want to get out of a sexual rut.
Couples who want to add a new dimension to their love life.
Any woman who suffers from reduced vaginal lubrication because of her age or medication.
Despite the gradual acceptance of sex toys as an integral part of a healthy individual’s life, it is difficult to overcome certain obstacles. Here are some of the most common ones and how you can overcome them.
Self-awareness could certainly be a virtually insurmountable barrier in the past. Fortunately, the veil of anonymity on the Internet removes the embarrassment factor. There is no shortage of sex shops and health food stores offering a variety of products tailored to your particular needs.
Upsetting the balance
A common misconception is that a sex toy user is never able to enjoy again without a toy. This is not heroin, you can find sexual highs in a variety of sexual positions, scenarios and fantasies without the need for a particular machine.
Alienate your partner
Some women fear that the introduction of an artificial tool may cause their partner to feel undesirable or unnecessary. Introduce the idea before you buy one and let it use it on you. This shared exploration will settle his bookings and make it a toy “our” instead of a toy “she”.
A word of warning
Do not forget to check that the product is safe for the skin. Cheap sex toys in jelly or rubber can not be completely cleaned because they are porous. Others contain phthalates, which have been shown to be harmful and are banned in children’s toys.